You don’t (always) have to be lonely at the top

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Helen & Abby chatting over afternoon tea at botanical restaurant in Bangsar Village II

Rule #4: Everything that is said to each other will be held in absolute confidence

Leaders, by nature of their work, carry a lot of secrets. They are exposed to inordinate levels of money, sex and power. These factors, combined by stress and anxiety, can cause leaders to derail into depression, infidelity, rage or to call it quits prematurely. Leaders who last the long haul value the importance of a “full-disclosure friend” – someone before whom they have no secrets.

 Here are Five Full-Disclosure Rules (crafted by author John Ortberg) you might want to establish with your friend each time you meet:

1. We can ask anything, no holds barred.

2. If you answer, you must tell the truth, as much as you know it.

3. If you don’t answer, you must say why you won’t or can’t answer.

4. Everything that is said to each other will be held in absolute confidence.

5. We will make absolutely no judgements of each other.

 

Read my full article and watch the full 5-minute video on Abby Leong and Helen Read – “A Recipe For Friendship (And Leadership)” – here.

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